Jesse J. Anderson


Feeling Misunderstood

Hello friends,

In the most recent episode of ADHD Nerds, I interview Trina Haynes and we talk about how the ADHD Community is truly something special.

The online ADHD community really has come together to provide the validation many of us were missing growing up.

We need this validation because our intentions have so often been distorted and misunderstood.

Our actions betrayed us, and for a long time we couldn't explain why and we didn't even know why.

Many of us feel like we often need to overexplain our behavior to others, which often doesn't seem to help.

We do this because we're afraid of being misunderstood, of people thinking the worst and not seeing the real you—the you that tries to do good, wants to be liked, and wishes to do the right thing.

I didn't find out about my ADHD until I was 36 years old.

That's a long time to live blaming yourself, feeling like no one really understands the person underneath the flaws and mistakes that show up on the surface.

I just want to thank you for being part of this community, it's meant the world to me that we can all come together and learn together, support each other in the struggles, and laugh and make jokes about some of our common quirks and mistakes in a judgement-free way.

You make me better, you make me feel understood.

Thanks for reading.

Stay focused,

Jesse J. Anderson

P.S. Thanks so much for sharing and listening to ADHD Nerds! It's been awesome hearing feedback and people really connecting with what the guests have to say. The third episode comes out next week. Don't forget to leave a quick review—they are so important to help others find the show and Apple's algorithm uses them to help rank and suggest podcasts. Thanks so much!

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links

📺 When I Started My Channel I Was A Bit Ableist [How To ADHD]​ ​This honest and vulnerable video from Jessica McCabe tackles the internalized ableism we often struggle with. Falsely believing there is some better person of ourself that we could reach if only we could be more neurotypical and less ADHD. Go watch it.

📝 A Brain Chemical Helps Neurons Know When to Start a Movement [Wired]​ ​Dopamine, a neurochemical often associated with reward behavior, also seems to help organize precisely when the brain initiates movements. It’s the latest revelation about the power of neuromodulators.

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