The Paradoxes of ADHD
The more I learn about ADHD, the more I discover so many different paradoxes and aspects that seem like opposite extremes of each other.
When it was first suggested that I might have ADHD (at age 36), I replied with, "I can't have ADHD because I have no problem focusing on things I find interesting."
You might know of a little feature of ADHD called hyperfocus.
When things are boring, it feels nearly impossible to focus on them. But if they are interesting, you become so focused you forget to eat, drink, or even go to the bathroom.
You can't say "people with ADHD can't focus" because in those areas of interest, we focus at EXTREME levels.
Another common feature many ADHDers experience is a unique sense of intuition. You've likely learned to trust your gut because you often sense things that others don't. But despite this intuition, you likely miss things that seem like common sense to others.
I recently tweeted about some of the other paradoxes of having ADHD.
Never in the middle, always either fully off or fully on.
These opposite extremes can cause us to live in an irrational state of mind.
The funny thing is, many of us (most of us?) are totally okay with being irrational!
Neurotypicals may find that absurd—but ADHDers often find comfort in uncertainty, clarity in the chaos. We often pretend the limits don't apply to us, and find success with our boundless mindset.
When I live by my own standards and embrace the unreasonable, I find freedom.
Jesse J. Anderson
📝🏠 ADHD Ask: Why Do You Make Nests Around the House With Your Stuff? People with ADHD often suffer from "out of sight, out of mind" and we instinctually surround ourselves with clutter or "nests" in order to keep from losing things we know are important.
🐦🧠 My 10 Favorite ADHD Tweets/Threads (Nov 15th) ADHD often "comes with friends" as studies have shown that 50-60% of ADHDers have at least one additional comorbid conditions such as anxiety, depression, and other neurological and mood disorders.